Listen ladies for the truth

Ladies so much of my past pain from dating came from trying to interpret sentences that were already in plain English”I’m not looking for anything serious” means I’m not looking for anything serious NOT “he can’t be serious”

“I can’t commit” means I can’t commit NOT “he just needs more time with me”

“I don’t have time ” means I don’t have time NOT “he needs my help with time management”

When we try to interpret sentences in English into what we WANT to hear we invite pain into our lives.

When I learned to stop interpreting sentences to mean what I wanted to hear the self inflicted pain & drama stopped.

BE thankful for plain English & BElieve it!



In order to try LOVE ONE-MORE-TIME we have to be committed to LISTENING for TRUTH instead of LISTENING for what we WANT TO HEAR.


When “they” predict bad news

There will always be people who want to speak defeat into the life of a believer. They will want to share statistics with you and how improbable it is for you to do what you’ve decided to do. They will impose what they believe is impossible for them onto what they think is therefore impossible for you.  Let me share some strategies for trying ONE-MORE-TIME to maintain your positive focus and belief in possibility when you’re surrounded by naysayers:


There’s a tag line for Tiffany and Co that says “HIGH END AMERICAN RETAILER KNOWN FOR FINE JEWELRY…”

As a believer you must know that you are:


  1. HIGH END.  You aren’t like everyone else and no one outside of you can be  intimately aware of how you have been cut just like a diamond for such a time as this.  GOD provides where HE guides.

  2. KINGDOM retailer.  The definition of “retailer” is the ability to sell DIRECTLY to the individual.  You have DIRECT ACCESS TO GOD’s kingdom. You don’t have to go through anyone else’s opinion to find out what’s possible for you. Go to the word

  3. GOD IS KNOWN FOR VICTORY  No matter the data. No matter the “most people (“fill in the blank” )comments. No matter the dismal predictions.  Know like you know like you know that YOU ARE MORE THAN A CONQUEROR.  And if you wanna get 21st century about it just say “you must not know ’bout me. You don’t have a clue who you’re talking to”

Your appraised value is from John 3:16.  No greater love.  No greater demonstration of just how much you mean to GOD.  Walk in that and turn a deaf ear and a blind eye to anything counter to what the word of GOD says about you and what’s possible for you.


If this served you then please share with your friends and family!


Now go walk in your appraised value knowing that like a diamond you have been cut out for this!



Back in love…AGAIN!

She’s drop dead gorgeous

She’s rich

She’s a mother and a grandmother and yet she like many of us wanted love…OMT(one more time)


What’ would make a woman in her 60’s after being publicly humiliated by a husband who not only had an affair but had a child as a result continue to date and ultimately remarry?  There’s just something about love that makes us go for it even after we’ve been hurt by it.  It’s that chance to have what we have always wanted even though what we’ve always gotten wasn’t right.

I can’t speak for the beautiful Mrs Tina Knowles but I share the pain of being betrayed and I also share the determination to try love…OMT(one more time) and so here are some reasons I’ll offer to you and maybe…just maybe you will also try love ONE MORE TIME!

Why LOVE is worth trying ONE MORE TIME

  1. There is a level of intimacy that can only be reached in a committed loving relationship.  That intimacy is beyond sex, beyond feelings, and beyond looks.  It’s an intimacy that touches the very essence of who you are.

2. Growth...committed loving relationships provide the environment for us to grow up and learn to forgive, trust, move on, compromise, and communicate at a higher level.

  1. Purposeful living…every union has a purpose that can only be accomplished as a result of walking together. Your union in some way will change the world by the children you create, the business you may create, the philanthropic initiatives you may ignite, or the example of love you may represent. The list of possibilities is unlimited but know that your love is purposeful

  2. I saved the practical one for last.  Bottom line money can’t hug you, trophies can’t comfort you, and nothing at the mall can dry your tears.  There’s nothing like having that someone to go with you through thick and thin until the end.  You can’t buy it, you can’t hire it, and you certainly can’t substitute it…LOVE…priceless and worth trying OMT(one more time)

Are you like Mrs Tina Knowles(and I’m in that boat as well) and willing to try love ONE MORE TIME? Share your reasons and share with someone you know needs to try one more time.

For more strategies to try OMT(one more time) go to

I knew…but I didn’t want to believe

I knew…but I didn’t want to believe it—Karrueche Trankarrueche-tran

That’s what Chris Brown’s ex-girlfriend of 4 years( roughly 33,408 hours of her life) said after she was sitting in his condo and he said he had somewhere to go only for her to see him and Rihanna at a game on TV. She took him back…AGAIN & AGAIN until she was sitting at home looking on social media and the words “I’m a Father” came up and that’s how she found out he had a baby by someone else.

I can’t throw shade on this beautiful young lady because I too can say “I knew…but I didn’t want to believe it” and that is why I’m so committed to helping you save yourself some time if you are currently in a situation where on a deep level you KNOW…you KNOW my sister that this isn’t the best for you but because you love the idea of loving him more than the idea of waiting for new love you stay.

Here are 3 ways to know that you’re caught up in a “I knew…but I didn’t want to believe it”

(1)You ain’t too proud to beg. You are always pleading, convincing, searching for more reasons to get him to see that YOU are the ONE. In fact even your prayers are for God to get him to see that he should be with you. He doesn’t see it and consistently shows you he doesn’t see it but you…you aint too proud to beg.

(2)There’s always a reason but your heart isn’t one.
There is always a reason he can’t commit right now. It’s work, his children, his Mother, his ex, his “fill in the blank” with anything other than the fact that it is hurting you to continue to sit in this uncertainty but that hasn’t made it to the top of his list of priorities. Your heart isn’t a priority to him and the hard truth is my sister your heart isn’t a priority to you.

(3)There’s shame in the truth. You don’t tell anyone what he REALLY said or how you REALLY feel because on some level the truth makes you feel shame. You feel shame because you are in conflict internally because you know that what you’re accepting and what you deserve are light years apart. You are accepting behavior from him that you know isn’t right.

Hear me when I say this my sister, I have been there and understand how painful it is to love someone who will not commit, repeatedly disrespects you, betrays you and still… you want him. I too spent 33,408 hours of my life in a toxic dance and it cost me having my own biological children, thousands of dollars in therapy, and refills of anti-depressants that made me feel like a walking mummy. I don’t want you to invest 33,000 hours of your life because you just don’t know how to leave what you know you need to leave. I don’t want you to pay the price of biological children, therapy to work on issues you have because you’re choosing to stay, and let’s not even talk about the tears.

It’s a toxic dance that moves to the beat of a heart that is in so much pain. Trust that better is available for you but you first have to end this toxic dance and that begins with you healing your heart so that the music of a wounded heart required for the toxic dance stops playing.

Don’t go back again…make this the day you try ONE-MORE-TIME to move forward.
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ps…Pass this on to a girlfriend who keeps going back.  We all can Rewrite OUR Story but we have to try ONE-MORE-TIME!

pps…I’m cheering for you Karrueche Tran